You know, I am not particularly political. I did discourage Priscilla (my cat) from running for President in 2012, but beyond that, I am generally, well, general. I have had no desire to participate in lawmaking, lawbreaking and generally bending the norm...BUT...
SOMETIMES, JUST SOMETIMES...
I JUST DON'T GET IT!
I would venture to say that every other day for the past two weeks at least, the newspaper has been writing and re-writing "what do we do with dead beat Dads?" Some "powers that be" suggested revoking drivers' licenses (hey, these $10,000 behind by court order wouldn't e-v-e-r drive without their licenses!) There have been "threats" of garnishment...REMEMBER...SOME OF THESE GUYS DON'T WORK, or work for family members for CASH! They don't care where the former spouses find cash for shoes, etc. Now, if a child is barefoot in school, Children's Services won't say, "Hey, support your kids so that Mom can buy them shoes!" Instead, Children's Services slap Mom around for not having the resourses to purchase the shoes from Dead Beat! Possibly their children could be taken away, but Dad can still buy his beer and mouth off, thumbing his nose at the "system".
In my limited, sheltered mind, I once said, " Gee, if a guy doesn't pay, why does he get visitation?" That ol' "Money doesn't buy love" thing is the song sung by either 1. someone with buckets of cash hoping that they are not going to the cleaners, or 2. someone WITHOUT ANY MONEY AT ALL! or 3. Someone with money with no desire to spend it.
I am inclined to believe that if a Dead Beat Dad can't dumb their children down for a certain amount of time (by insane, uninformed, uninterested
court orders) unless they are current, a few positive possibilities will erupt: 1. fewer Dead Beats, because they really do want a relationship with their offspring; 2. no need for the vast amount of money spent on social programs (welfare, heat assistance, WIC, Medicade, etc)from the working poors' pockets to support the children that DBDads should!
I've been told that "Child Support has nothing to do with Visitation" Why not? If a man working on the line, in an office, etc. in any job has a portion of his wages (taxes) contributing to the above mentioned social services...That poor individual is working, supporting his family and just why should he cover Dead Beat? He has nothing to do with the situation or that guy's visitation. He goes home FROM WORK and sees his kids just fine!
If all of the coddling, revoking, incarcerating methods have not worked, WHY NOT TRY AN APPROACH FROM THE SOURCE? Why not even a tiny "trial" period to Pay to Play? That, or those who contribute to the care of the Dead Beats children have a play date with Dead Beat, taxpayer and the children?
You want to see your kids? Catch up, then we'll talk!
Sometimes, just sometimes, the Dead Beat hates the ex more than he loves his children.
Where has commons sense gone? Take for instance, a single Mom struggling with three little children. After six years of failure to have her ex-husband learn that heat vents were not urinals when he was drunk, besides being unemployed, she ended the party. He is at least $10,000 behind in child support, her Father pays taxes and helps support the children. He is faced with a double fee, because, D.B.Dad sits back clearly saying, "Ah, hell, they got money...Money can't buy love." Hey chucklehead, money can buy a pair of shoes! The court ordered the children to attend activities (paid for by Mom) that Dead Beat only has to have a person drive him and the children (supervised visitation, no less). No cooperation without a battle!
It is evidently a Man's World out there, no matter what NOW has attempted or no matter how many bras have been burned! Face it! I triple dog dare any woman to engage in attempted "justice" or "intelligence" in Miami County, Ohio.
The majority of men, who are divorced, pay their alimony and child support to the last penny and beyond. Many divorced couples cooperate in order that their children have full, fun, enriched lives without spitefully keeping them from their activities, friends, fun. I salute you! I salute and smile at gentlemen, who are that, gentlemen, who care for their children even "after the loving". The couples might have fallen out of love, but they treasure their children and will see them through school, through activities, through religious education, through life to be the absolute best that they can be!
My children are grown. They were raised in a two-parent household. Their Dad took care of us with pride, with dignity, with humility, with intellegence and we (now with grandchildren) are never from his heart. (Okay, I know, or wallet...I know, I know). He had moved on to another ex-wife, and child. She is the very pulse of his being.( Yeah, the heart and wallet thing too) His children are intelligent, successful, well-rounded, educated, interesting. Both of the mothers of his children have been encouraged to thrive in our pursuits and though we are "different" he is supportative. He is synonomous with the the Ideal Dad.
SO SMARTEN UP LAWMAKERS, FAMILY SERVICES, COURTS, MAGISTRATES (stop trying to demonstrate the ineptness of Boss Hog)...IF DEAD BEAT DADS CAN'T/WON'T STRAIGHTEN OUT...THINK,THINK, THINK, COMMON SENSE IS A TERRIBLE THING TO WASTE (The key here...is there ANY commons sense left today?)
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